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Our IVF Story Begins… On BBC Radio 4

Jonny and I have been making a series for PM on BBC Radio 4.  It explores what it’s like for a couple who are struggling to have a baby.

Our first piece followed our last IVF cycle:

When Jonny and I first discussed documenting this round of IVF, it sounded easy.  In fact, it was easy.  Being able to focus on something other than the injections, appointments and medical process was a welcome distraction.  Then once the piece was edited and filed, we got on with our lives for a while.

It was only the hour before it played out live to the nation, did I realise the enormity of the situation.  Everyone who knew us were about to find out exactly what we were going through.  What the last four years had meant for us.  All our personal medical information.  And we weren’t even together to listen to it – I had gone shopping with friends, and Jonny was at home with the cat.

I’d been a reporter for years, but this was by far the most emotional and personal piece of radio I had ever made.  Hearing it again was like reliving the trauma.  I didn’t know what to do initially… but the response was incredible.  So many friends, relatives, and complete strangers reached out to send their love and tell us how it helped them.

For that alone, we are grateful.


  • Reply
    Eleanor Taylor
    November 29, 2017 at 5:35 pm

    Hi Sophie, I’m really enjoying the radio 4 series, as someone in a same-sex couple I’m always trying to work what would be the best way for me to have a family. I’ve listened to all 4 segments so far – have you done anymore? Are you speaking to anyone who remains childless?

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      Sophie Sulehria
      January 13, 2018 at 4:34 pm

      Hey Eleanor, sorry for the delay in replying to you. I am struggling to update this website with everything that’s going on!!

      Yes, we will be covering childlessness, in two weeks time actually. Next up this Monday coming (15th Jan) will be fostering to adopt, then two weeks later (29th Jan) will be childlessness.

      Thank you so much for listening, and for your support – I really hope the series will help with your decisions.


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    January 15, 2018 at 10:50 pm

    Hi Sophie, really moved to hear your ivf journey and to read about it in a magazine today. My husband and I have been on the same journey, same amount of time and having/had same feelings as you both describe.
    I’m processing our negative outcomes x 3. I have looked into alternatives but as I approach 40 I feel more inclined to finish grieving and move into the arena of embracing childlessness as a way of getting my sanity back, and as a way of getting some control of our lives again, scary! There’s are options but the years of waiting have been tough. Thankyou for being so brave in sharing your journey. We haven’t shared it with many, especially as there’s no positive result. IVF/infertility can strip you of so much dignity and distance you from friends and family (from life in general). my hope is that one day I can stand up and affirm my role as a women with confidence, with or without a child.

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      Sophie Sulehria
      January 16, 2018 at 11:14 pm

      Thank you so much for your message Katie, and I am so sorry to read that you’re facing this too. I am pleased you’ve read the Red article, and I would urge you to listen to our series on Radio 4’s PM Programme also – the link is in my blog page. We are covering involuntary childlessness in two weeks (29th Jan) but have also explored other options you may want to consider, like egg donation and adoption. Do have a listen, and please know you are not alone. There are thousands of us sadly, all fighting, all trying to stay positive, all dealing with this hideous journey and often in silence. I just hope at some point soon that you find a glimmer of light, in whatever path you choose. Take care Katie, and stay with us x

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    Dr Patrick Quinn
    April 14, 2018 at 7:03 am

    Hey Sophie, I’m touched by your story. I’m really happy that there are people like you who are sharing their experiences and creating awareness about the IVF with the world.Thank you for spreading the information.Great Work!

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      Sophie Sulehria
      May 5, 2018 at 2:11 pm

      Thanks Patrick, appreciate that.

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