It’s been a year since we went public about our struggle with fertility. In October 2017 we shared our story with the BBC… and it was incredibly difficult.
We’ve gone on to write lots of articles, spoken at important fertility events, made a series for Radio 4’s PM Programme, and produced a podcast called The Long Road to Baby
This week my article Desperate for a Baby went out across the BBC going some way to explaining how fertility conditions can affect the people around us… our friends and family.
This month we were interviewed about mental health and infertility – one and the same thing if we’re honest. It was published by the lovely Alice Fyles’ in her “TTC Life Raft” podcast.
Alice says: “Making this podcast is one more way I can work on my mission: to empower anyone experiencing a struggle to have a baby (or while ‘TTC’: trying to conceive)”
And she’s right. If I had access to this podcast when we were in the throes of hell, I know it would have helped us. So thanks for having us Alice, and here we are in The TTC Life Raft
A BBC presenter who has spent four years trying to have a baby has told how she would sometimes hide at home because she is so afraid of seeing pregnant women.
Sophie Sulehria said that – after six failed rounds of IVF – she has had to miss birthday parties and walk out of shops because she finds the sight of expectant mothers so upsetting…
Full article here: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-5048359/BBC-host-s-unsuccessful-40-000-IVF-treatment-ordeal.html
Jonny and I have been making a series for PM on BBC Radio 4. It explores what it’s like for a couple who are struggling to have a baby.
Our first piece followed our last IVF cycle:
When Jonny and I first discussed documenting this round of IVF, it sounded easy. In fact, it was easy. Being able to focus on something other than the injections, appointments and medical process was a welcome distraction. Then once the piece was edited and filed, we got on with our lives for a while.
It was only the hour before it played out live to the nation, did I realise the enormity of the situation. Everyone who knew us were about to find out exactly what we were going through. What the last four years had meant for us. All our personal medical information. And we weren’t even together to listen to it – I had gone shopping with friends, and Jonny was at home with the cat.
I’d been a reporter for years, but this was by far the most emotional and personal piece of radio I had ever made. Hearing it again was like reliving the trauma. I didn’t know what to do initially… but the response was incredible. So many friends, relatives, and complete strangers reached out to send their love and tell us how it helped them.
For that alone, we are grateful.
Every year around 50,000 people turn to IVF clinics across the UK, hoping to achieve their dream of parenthood. But despite almost 40 years of research, the treatment fails 70% of the time.
Then what do you do?
On the 23rd October my husband Jonny and I decided open up about our own personal problems we’d faced while trying to have a baby. After six failed rounds of IVF, my low ovarian reserve and severe endometriosis was proving difficult to beat.
It would seem our hope of having a baby was disappearing fast.
Read our story here